From Umar Aliyu Abubakar (Mallam Bahaushe)
Unlike how most people think, we don’t become emotionally strong by neglecting our emotions, ignoring or countering tnem, rather, knowing how to respond to them in a healthy way is the key. Psychologists have found out 4 signs of emotionally strong people.
1. Control your attention, not your emotions: emotions aren’t under our direct control, when you try to control things you don’t have control over, like your feelings, you’ll only create more pain and suffering for yourself in the long run, if you want to be more emotionally strong, validate your emotions and control your attention.
2. Practice compassionate self-talk: when you respond to painful emotions with negative self-talk, you train your brain to be ashamed of feeling bad, true emotional strength comes from gentleness, not criticism.
3. Use values, not feelings, to make desicions: your emotions will lead you astray, just as often as they will guide you. Listen to all your emotions but don’t take orders from them.
4. Set and enforce healthy boundaries: emotionally strong people know that you can’t be emotionally healthy if you never stand up for yourself and your own wants and needs, just because it feels bad doesn’t mean it is bad.
24/07/2023